— Vamos fazer tudo hoje?
— Acho que não, tudo é muita coisa.
Hoje em dia já ninguém lá vai, aquilo está cheio de gente
Artigos etiquetados “amizade”
Está certamente feliz da vida, a rir-se como uma hiena.
Old age brings its own peculiar terrors. No longer is it possible to believe, as we all did in our younger days, that we are indestructible and will live for ever. We have seen too many friends and family die. We have begun to experience the inevitable frailty of the human body. We lack the energy and the stamina to do what we once did.
—Robin Dunbar, Friends, Little Brown, 2021
Romantic relationships as well as friendships result from our deliberately putting reality on hold: we place a halo round the individual concerned. Not to put too fine a point on it, it is not another person that we fall in love with, but an avatar that we have created in our mind.
—Robin Dunbar, Friends, Little Brown, 2021
(…) falling in love, or just become besotted with anyone or anything (including your pet dog), seem to switch off the rational capacities of the brain that would normally allow us to evaluate other people and situations more critically and sceptically. Of course, this makes it possible for us to give ourselves wholly and unstintingly to the object of our affections without being too shy and retiring or too critical of their behaviour. In a word, your rational thinking centres are being deliberately switched off so that you don’t ask too many questions and give up to early.
—Robin Dunbar, Friends, Little Brown, 2021