Entre, dispa a
tristeza, aqui
pode nada dizer
—Reiner Kunze
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Artigos da categoria “Livros e Poesia”
(…) conflit is in fact as much a part of love as physical affection, thought for most people it’s not nearly as enjoyable. Unlike hugs, kissing, sex, and other kinds of touch (which also require active listening to be felt meaningfully), the emotional touch of conflict is often what divides instead of unites a couple, since it so often leads to the anger axis described above: bickering arguments and worse. It is an outlet for tensions that arise out of everything from banal matters like daily logistics and housework, to attitudes toward weightier matters like ways of being, fidelity, and fundamental world-views. Yet as most of us know, all matters can become weighty during conflit if we don’t stay aware of how perception works in oneself, NOT just in the other person.
—Beau Lotto, Deviate, Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 2018
What is interesting and ironic is that the more creative and intelligent the individual, the more difficult it can be to dissuade them from their anger response, since they are better at finding seemingly meaningful connections in what are in fact non-causal relationships, as well as creating internally consistent arguments that support their erroneous position, thus protecting them from uncertainty of ignorance.
—Beau Lotto, Deviate, Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 2018
(…) to truly uncover your assumptions and replace if not expand them with new ones, you must constantly step into an emotionally challenging place and experience difference… actively! By challenge, what we really mean when we say this is that an experience or environment doesn’t match our assumptions (expectations).
—Beau Lotto, Deviate, Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 2018
The basic key to their findings whether the event matches expectations. What is more, the expectation of an event matching your expectation alters your level of happiness in anticipation of the event itself… that is, until you actually experience it. It’s in the anticipation of an event that happiness itself often lives. This is because dopamine — a neurotransmitter in the brain correlated with positive feelings, among many other things — spikes in anticipation of a positive event, and then decreases during the event itself.
—Beau Lotto, Deviate, Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 2018
(Trata-se de um estudo do University College London, sobre a previsão se alguém se vai sentir feliz ou não numa determinada situação.)